Addiction Issues

 

 

Signs of alcoholism

 

 

Answer these questions with a yes or no

 

 

 

·        Have you ever decided to stop drinking for a week or so, but it only lasted a  couple of days?

 ·        Do you wish people would mind their own business about your drinking?

 ·        Have you ever switched from one kind of drink to another in hope that you wouldn't
        get drunk?

        Have you had to have an eye-opener upon awakening during the past year?

 ·        Do you envy people who can drink without getting into trouble?

 ·        Do you need a drink to get started, or to stop shaking?

 ·        Have you had problems connected with drinking during the past year?

 ·        Has your drinking caused trouble at home?

 ·        Do you ever try to get "extra" drinks at a party because you do not get enough?

         ·        Do you tell yourself you can stop drinking anytime you want to, but you don't stop?

    ·        Do you have "blackouts"?

    ·        Have you ever felt your life would be better if you didn't drink?

 

                  If you answered yes four or more times, you might be in some serious trouble.

 

 

CODEPENDENCY

[adapted from Melody Beattie's Codependent No More]

WHAT IS CODEPENDENCY?

·          Resisting life the way it is

·          Denial of the ability to share a person with others

·          Repression of feelings

·          Compulsive behaviors

·          Lifestyle learned in order to survive

SHARED CHARACTERISTICS OF CODEPENDENTS:

·          Isolation

·          Fear of people and authority figures

·          External approval seeking

·          Identity loss

·          Poor relationship skills

·          Fear of anger, criticism

·          Viewing life as a victim

·          Attracted by perceived weakness in others

·          Belief that they have no choices

·          Shame, blame and guilt make their decisions

·          Addicted to excitement

·          Tendency to love those they can pity and rescue

·          Judge selves harshly

·          Low self-esteem

·          Fear of abandonment, rejection

·          Lack of trust

RULES OF CODEPENDENTS:

·          Do it right. Don’t make mistakes. Don’t tell.

·          Be in control of interactions and relationships. Don’t take risks.

·          Don’t depend on others. Don’t trust others.

·          Don’t feel.

·          Don’t share. Keep secrets. Don’t let others know that things are not okay.

·          Don’t ask for what you want or need.

·          Don’t create attention. Don’t make waves. Or, create a crisis.

RESULTS OF CODEPENDENCY:

·          Unable to distinguish between normal and not normal

·          Unable to judge own strengths and weaknesses

·          Always looking for approval

·          Unable to relax

·          Critical of self

·          Overact to changes

·          Difficulty with intimacy

·          Poor relationship skills

·          Crisis oriented to keep others away


 

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