COUPLES AND FAMILY ISSUES
One of the myths about couples counseling is that it is one step closer to divorce. If a couple goes to couples counseling it is inevitable they will get divorced. Actually the opposite is true. A couple, whether married or not, that decides to work on their issues has a much greater chance of making change!!!!
In addition,
of of the most difficult issues that couples face is the belief that things can
change. Some couples are quite destructive in the way that they hurt one another.
One of the most important things for
couples to have are "Fair
Fighting
Rules"
Rules For Fair Fighting
Speaking one at a time
Looking for compromises
Trying not to generalize
Allowing for time-outs and breathers
Observing rules that you set
No forcing, No hitting, No threats
Showing personal respect
Being honest with yourself and them
Giving your reasons
Admitting when you are wrong
Allowing equal time to speak
Unfair Behavior:
Name calling
Opening old wounds, dredging up the past
Intimidating, coercing or threatening
Changing the rules and not saying so
Expecting there to be a winner and a loser
Saving up gripes to dump them all at once
Reading the other's mind
Denying the facts
Using sex as leverage
Using violence of any kind
Appearing to ignore your partner
Do you continue to have difficulties with relationships?
Do the same patterns seem to keep happening?
