(from Loving the Self Absorbed by Dr. Nina Brown)
1. Constantly looks to you to meet
their needs
2. Expects you to know what he/she
expects, desires, and needs without
having to ask for it
3. Gets upset when you are perceived
to be critical or blaming
4. Expects you to put his/her needs
before your own
5. Seeks attention in indirect ways
6. Expects you to openly admire
him/her
7. Acts childish, e.g., sulks or
pouts
8. Accuses you of being insensitive
or uncaring without cause or notice
9. Finds fault with your friends
10. Becomes angry when challenged or
confronted
11. Does not seem to recognize your
feelings
12. Uses your disclosures to
criticize, blame, or discount you
13. Is controlling
14. Lies, distorts, and misleads
15. Is competitive and uses any
means to get what is wanted
16. Has a superior attitude
17. Is contemptuous of you and
others
18. Is arrogant
19. Is envious of others
20. Demeans and devalues you
21. Is self-centered and self
absorbed
22. Has to be the center of
attention
23. Manipulates others to win
attention
24. Is impulsive and reckless
25. Boasts and brags
26. Is insensitive to your needs
27. Makes fun of others’ mistakes or
faults
28. Engages in seductive behavior
29. Is vengeful
30. Expects favors, but does not
return them